CERTIFIED RELATIONAL LIFE THERAPY (RLT) COACH

The relationship you
want is yours to create.

Relationship coaching to help you transform painful patterns into resilient, fulfilling, and joyful connection.

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This isn’t what you pictured.

Even though you love each other (most of the time), you don’t love where your relationship keeps landing. Maybe you’re feeling—

Frustrated… or deeply resentful.
Taken for granted… or fully unseen.
Wishing for more…. or ready to walk away.

Perhaps it sounds more like this in your head:

"I want my partner to stop doing _______." "I’m exhausted and wonder if there is any hope for us." "My partner and I lead separate lives—I feel lonely." "No matter the argument, it seems to be my fault." "Since _____ changed (kids, work, etc.) we've struggled." "When we try to talk about _____, we blow up." "I'm considering divorce but am open to help." "I don’t feel loved or important in our relationship." “We’re becoming so different; it’s hard to connect.”

Man in car with hand behind head looking concerned or stressed.

“I want my partner to stop doing _______.”

“I’m exhausted and wonder if there is any hope for us.”

“My partner and I lead separate lives—I feel lonely.”

“No matter the argument, it seems to be my fault.”

“Since _____ changed (kids, work, etc.) we’ve struggled.”

“When we try to talk about _____, we blow up.”

“I’m considering divorce but am open to help.”

“I don’t feel loved or important in our relationship.”

“We’re becoming so different; it’s hard to connect.”

“I’m exhausted and wonder if there is any hope for us.”

If any of these resonate, take a breath—you’re not alone.

Disharmony is normaland repair is possible.

That’s why “relationships take work” isn’t just a saying—it’s a nonnegotiable. Struggles are inevitable when two imperfect people try to build something lasting together. Yet somehow, working on your relationship is a skill no one ever teaches us.

I can help.

 

I’m Stephanie, a Certified Relational Coach, and I’ll help you develop the skills you need to build a true partnership—the kind you’ve longed for but may be wondering if it is possible

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What you can expect:

After decades of trial, study, and practice in search of real solutions for couples, I discovered Relational Life Therapy—a model proven to help people change, quickly and for good.

Whether you’re rebuilding after years of struggle or laying a healthy foundation from the start, we’ll apply RLT principles—together or individually—to:

Clarify your goals.

Maybe you’re not clear on what you’re working toward, or maybe it feels like your individual goals are working against each other. Whatever we uncover—less tension, more trust, stronger connection—our aim is simply to name what matters most.

Understand your obstacles.

Frustration, disconnection, and the same argument playing out in different ways aren’t random. They’re signs of something deeper. Often, what’s missing is a clear understanding of the real obstacles—and how to work through them. With that in place, lasting change becomes not just possible, but likely.

Transform your relationship.

Healthy relationships move through a cycle of harmony, disharmony, and repair. But without skills and training, couples often skip repair and return to a state of false harmony, where hurtful patterns persist. You’ll learn and practice the essential relational skills to complete the healthy cycle—drawing closer together as you grow.

I’d love to explain how this applies to your life.

I recognize that just acknowledging these things takes courage.
I’m so glad you’re here and hope we can talk soon.

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★★★★★

Couples Coaching

“Before working with [Coach’s Name], we were stuck in the same arguments over and over. We weren’t yelling—but we weren’t connecting either. After just a few sessions, we started seeing our patterns clearly and learning how to change them in real time. It’s not magic, but it feels close. We laugh more. We feel safer. We feel like a team again.”
— A & J, Married 10 Years

★★★★★

Individual Coaching

“I came in heartbroken and confused—not just about a relationship, but about myself. This process gave me clarity I didn’t know I needed. I stopped blaming myself, started understanding my patterns, and began showing up in my life with more confidence and calm. I didn’t just feel supported—I felt seen.”
— Nina R., Coaching Client

★★★★★

Relational Bootcamp

“I’ve done therapy, read the books, listened to the podcasts—but nothing clicked like this. The Bootcamp was intense in the best way. In two days, I learned more about myself and my relationship than I had in months. We left with tools we actually use. It was real, challenging, and honestly, life-changing.”
— Marcus L., Bootcamp Participant

Which option is best for you?

Couples Coaching

Focused, action-based coaching that helps couples break unhealthy cycles and build a relationship that endures.

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Individual Coaching

Support for those who want to better understand their relational patterns and learn new ways to connect.

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Relational Bootcamp

A two-day intensive that condenses months of relational work into a transformational weekend.
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“But therapy moves
so slow. It’s daunting.”

I used to think this, too.

Relational Life Therapy is different. It is action-focused, trauma-informed, and guided by neuroscience of change to create meaningful change fast.

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You may also be wondering…

What if my partner doesn’t want to come?
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While working with both partners is often ideal, it's not required to see real change.

Many of my clients start on their own—and discover that by learning new skills and shifting their own responses, they’re able to influence the relationship in meaningful ways. When one person changes the dance, the dance changes. And that can be the beginning of something new.

What actually happens in a session?
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We start by getting clear on what you want to be different—what success would look like for you. Then we begin to explore the patterns and dynamics getting in the way. I’ll guide the conversation with curiosity and compassion, offering insight and practical tools along the way.

You’ll leave each session with something to reflect on or try—because insight is important, but practice is what creates change.

How long does it take to see results?
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Most people walk away from the very first session with new insight and a few simple tools they can begin using right away.
RLT is designed to create meaningful shifts early in the process. Over time, those small changes add up. Some clients come for just a handful of sessions and feel equipped to move forward. Others choose to stay longer and go deeper. We’ll find the pace and rhythm that’s right for you. You can read more specifics here.

Can this help if our situation feels heavy—or even hopeless?
M
L
Yes. I work with couples—married or not—who are facing some of the most painful and complex challenges relationships can hold: infidelity, addiction, family tension, financial betrayal, or the quiet ache of lost intimacy. Many arrive feeling stuck in the same fight, unsure how to rebuild trust, or wondering if the closeness they once had is even possible anymore.

I want you to know: you're not alone. And you're not beyond help.

Relational Life Therapy is especially well suited for these moments because we don’t avoid the hard stuff. We look directly at the challenges you’re facing and begin building the skills that create clarity, healing, and forward movement. That might mean learning how to communicate without shutting down or blowing up, reconnecting emotionally after a rupture, or simply feeling seen and understood by your partner again.

Whether you’re in crisis or just quietly struggling, this work can help you move from disconnection to something stronger, more honest, and more fulfilling—if both of you are willing to do the work.

What if we’re not in crisis but just feeling disconnected?
M
L
This is actually one of the best times to begin. You already know something doesn’t feel quite right—so let’s use that awareness to your advantage. With the right support, you can address the disconnect before it deepens. Research shows most couples wait six years before seeking help. That’s too long. Starting now gives you the opportunity to reconnect, rebuild, and move forward with more closeness than before.
What if I don't like to talk about feelings?
M
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You’re not alone. For many people, feelings can be awkward, uncomfortable, or overwhelming. We’ll go at a pace that feels manageable to you. This work is about integrating both thought and feeling—not choosing one over the other. You’ll learn ways to engage with emotion that feel safe, grounded, and effective. No pressure. Just support.
How much does it cost? Does insurance cover it?
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Coaching sessions are [$XXX/session]. While I don’t take insurance, some clients choose to file reimbursement through their provider. I’m happy to supply a receipt for your records. If you have questions about this process, feel free to ask.
We’ve tried therapy before, and it didn’t help. Why would this be different?
M
L
I hear this often, and I get it—it takes courage to try again. What makes Relational Life Therapy different is that we don’t just explore the past or sit in neutrality. We work directly with the patterns that are creating harm in your relationship, and I’ll teach you practical tools to shift those patterns in real time.
You’ll gain clarity about what’s getting in the way of connection—and support to actually do something about it.
Do we have to rehash the past for this to work?
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No rehashing here. While the past may come up to help us understand how certain patterns developed, we won’t dwell on it or reenact it. The focus is on what’s happening now and what will help you move forward. If we need to visit the past, we’ll do it thoughtfully—and you’re always in control of how deep we go.
What if my partner and I have different goals?
M
L
That’s completely normal. Every relationship is made up of two individuals, and it’s rare for your goals to align perfectly. We’ll talk about what you both want, what’s driving those hopes, and where your goals overlap. Often, these conversations are where the most growth happens. You don’t have to agree on everything to make meaningful progress—you just have to be open to learning.
Do we have to be married to do this work?
M
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Not at all. I work with people in all types of committed relationships—married or not—as well as individuals exploring how to improve their connection with a partner, navigate transitions, or grow personally.
Do you work with all couples, regardless of gender or orientation?
M
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Yes. I welcome all couples and individuals—of every gender, sexual orientation, and identity. Whoever you are, and wherever you are in your journey, I’m here to help.
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