Couples Coaching

All relationships move through cycles of harmony, disharmony, and repair—but most couples never truly complete that cycle. Instead, they return to a superficial peace without actually resolving what caused the rupture. Over time, those unresolved moments build up just below the surface, always ready to blow.  Disillusionment is a common result.

Our work begins with understanding why you get stuck, how to move through conflict without causing harm, and how to repair in a way that lasts. The goal isn’t just stability—it’s a relationship where you both show up with courage, compassion, respect, and the willingness to grow.

WHY PEOPLE CHOOSE TO WORK ON THEIR RELATIONSHIP

• Become aware what makes you and your partner tick
• Get to the root causes of painful disconnection
• Learn better ways to manage conflict and disagreements
• Work on personal issues that impact your relationship
• Address problems with intimacy, sex, or emotional connection
• Deepen your relationship in a lasting, meaningful, satisfying way

Starting couples work can feel vulnerable. Talking about what’s not working in your relationship — naming regrets, unmet needs, or long-standing frustrations — takes courage. Please understand that discomfort is normal, and you’re not alone in it.

• You can expect a conversational tone and a steady presence. I’ll be honest and respectful. Relationships are deeply human – tender, complicated and important to us. We all deserve to learn the skills to create fulfilling relationships.
• Sessions are active, honest, and focused on change. I’ll listen closely, but I’ll also speak up—with care, clarity, and practical guidance. I’m not afraid of the hard stuff. I’ll never ask you to do something I haven’t done myself.
• My job is to make this process feel as safe and supportive as possible. I’ll help you become steady enough to do the work—no pressure or shame, and no pretending things are fine where they are not. I will support you every step of the way.
  
• Important note: This isn’t the kind of couples work that circles endlessly or where you vent while I take notes. We don’t skip over the challenges; we turn toward them. I’ll be honest, empathic, and offer direct guidance. This is not a passive therapy. This is ‘working on’ your relationship.
  

In our first session, we get clear on your goals. I’ll ask questions like, “If this were a meaningful success three months from now, what would be different? How would you know it’s working?”

From there, we’ll take a closer look at what’s happening between you right now—especially in the hard moments: the conflict, the disconnection, the times when it feels like you’re speaking different languages. Even in that first session, we’ll begin to uncover what’s really going on and what’s keeping you stuck. This is how progress begins.

As we work together, you’ll see the patterns—what you each do (or don’t do) that fuels the cycle you’re both tired of. I’ll help you name those dynamics gently but directly, understand what’s driving them, and learn how to shift them in real time. You’ll learn relational skills and strategies to practice outside of sessions. Because insight is important—but it’s what you do with it that creates lasting change.

• We meet over Zoom for 60 to 120 minutes, generally weekly or bi-weekly.
• Homework – There will be homework. It might be a skill to practice, a shift perspective to test, a reflection to consider. When you take new relational actions, the change begins.

Please schedule a call to learn more.